it is 3:00 in the morning & you are in your crib screaming…
you have been sleeping with us in our bed for the past 5 months & it has gotten to the point where we don’t even try to put you in your bed anymore, ever. we just lay you down in our bed for the night. the only thing that really bothers me about doing this is the fact that when you go to sleep is my only time to get some things done around the house or even (gasp) get to work on scrapbooking or make product for my store.
we went to the doctor last week for your one year check-up & Dr. Sprague said that there is nothing “wrong” with letting you sleep with us. but then he asked me a question that my mom has been asking me… do we want a 2-3 or 4 year old little girl sleeping with us every nite… the answer is NO & the longer we wait, the harder it will become to get you sleeping on your own.
we are using the method of timed intervals between when we come & lay you back down in your bed. it works like this…
i lay you down & rub your back for just one minute (at the most) & then i leave your room. you start crying & i come to lay you back down & rub your back & tell you good nite but i DO NOT make eye contact & i definately DO NOT pick you up. apparently it is very important that i don’t engage you in any way because if i do you will think it is time to get up. the first time i checked on you i came back in 5 minutes, every time after that i add on 10 minutes before i come back into your room… we are up to 40 minutes.
sophia, this is torture!! i’m not sure who this is harder on… me or you??
i just want to go into your room, pick you up & lay down with you so you can relax & get some sleep. but i have put too much time in now to turn back. if i come pick you up now you will know that as long as you keep crying & screaming then eventually i will come pick you up & bring you to bed with daddy & me.
3:26 a.m. i just checked on you after 40 minutes of crying. i left the room & you were quiet & appeared to be asleep, 2 minutes later you were screaming again. WAIT, WAIT A MINUTE… YOU STOPPED CRYING!! is it true, did you decide to lay down on your own?? oh-nope, crying again. but it is not quite as frantic & you are taking a few minutes of relaxing in between your screams, which you have not done up until now.
3:43 a.m. you are quiet. you have been quiet for 3 minutes.
3:51 a.m. you have been quiet for 11 minutes. YOU ARE ASLEEP!! you actually laid down on your own & fell asleep.
sophia, i know this is hard for both of us but it is also the best thing, for both of us. you are my sweet baby girl & i am so sorry that i have to let you cry & scream like that. you probobly will wake again tonite but if you do i bet that your “cry time” will not be as long anymore & i bet that tomorrow nite your “cry time” will be much less than tonite too.
“they” say that it usually takes 3 to 4 nights of this & then you are able to self-soothe & get back to sleep on your own if you wake in the nite.
4:03 a.m. you have been quiet & asleep for 24 minutes!! i am going to lay down & try to get some rest before you wake again.
i love you so much sophia.